Big questions like; Who am I? What do I want? Is this my life now?
Like a running commentary in your mind.
Like treading through unknown territory, blindfolded.
I was utterly bereft of the woman I knew so well. I just expected she would still be there in all her full glory, but with a baby. I wasn’t expecting such a monumental shift in personality, or that I would miss her so much!
When you become a mother It’s like you are being reborn. As your baby comes into the world to breath, live and learn, so do you.
You too are adjusting to the outside world. So, no wonder you feel so strange and out of sync, right?
I remember thinking:
When I asked people they said, “I didn’t want to scare you”.
I was like: “scare me? It would prepare me!”
I often wonder…. Had I been better informed about the becoming of a mother and the emotions I might face along the way, would my PND have been so prevalent?
Although nothing can really prepare you, and every-one is so unique in their experience. It wouldn’t hurt to have a little heads up, or some understanding of the transition of becoming a mum, and what this might bring for you.
Mainly so that you don’t feel so weird, or alone, or like you are a failure or a bad person.
So that you can be aware and acknowledge your feelings as you become immersed in this monumental transitional time. Possibly even learn a little self-care trick or two so you can manage your down days better?
Or at least not spiral into a mass of anxieties, guilt, shame and self-doubt. Am I right?
That’s why it’s so important to touch base and be aware of who YOU are. Finding subtle ways to identify with the woman you are now so that you can flourish in your new world feeling empowered, confident and strong.
A huge part of this is to be with your tribe of mega mammas, the ones who get you and support you without judgment.
When you realise, and you will, that most other women feel the same way you do, you’ll realise that you’re not weird, alone or a bad mum.
You are human and just like everybody else. Except Instagram will often portray a different picture.
But I wonder. If being open, honest and by talking to others, sharing in our unfiltered truths was normalized instead of hiding behind a fake smile and shame.
Would we be one step closer to changing how society not only views motherhood but prepares and supports women in her transition into becoming of a mother and beyond?
Perhaps even reduce the impact and longevity of PND and isolation?
We have the power to be vulnerable and rise strong!
I don’t miss the old me anymore, in fact, I’m much happier with who I am now.
I’m stronger and I’m loving being a mum. And I am enjoying my life in a whole new amazing way because of it.
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Naomie Ella is mum to one tiny little firecracker and founder of Naomie Ella – Motherhood Transitions. An Occupational Therapist, Entrepreneur, Holistic Life Coach and Well-being Mentor for Mum’s. Naomie is on a personal mission to promote positive maternal mental health and wellness for all mothers. Supporting women to thrive and reconnect with who they are now so they can show up with confidence and inner power as they navigate motherhood.
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