It’s a brand new year!
But you’re shattered, like utterly exhausted from the chaos of xmas and all the festivities have left you feeling a little less than fabulous.
With the cold weather, long dark nights, January can leave you feeling low in mood, depleted and with about as much energy as a hermit crab.
Being the incredible mum that you are, you’ve probably ran yourself ragged by spending your time and energy making sure everyone else is happy, having fun, and meeting their needs.
Which is a wonderful thing to do, and you’re doing a fantastic job!
But how often do you put time aside for YOUR wellbeing?
When was the last time YOU took some intentional time out to MEET YOUR NEEDS?
To fill your cup back up.
Here are My top 5 tips! to keep you feeling and being at your best, to prevent the winter blues, burn out and depletion.
So that you can start this year feeling healthy and energized, with easy to implement positive habits that will benefit you and your family as a whole.
Mindfulness is one of those incredible tools that once you master it, will bring you the most rewarding effects, especially as a mum dealing with life, kids and those millions to do’s that are running around your head every second.Mindfulness is about stepping out of that place in your head and coming back to the here and now, the present.
By focusing on what you have going on around you, what you are doing in that moment you will instantly feel calmer, less stressed and be overwhelm free.
Let me ask you - when was the last time you dried your hair and really felt the sensation of the drier on your neck and hair?
Or the feeling of wiggling your toes in your shoes or slippers? It is simple little things like this that brings you back into the present (and feel great!).
But aside from this a regular practice of mindfulness is amazing for restoring positive mental health. Regular practice builds up the brain density in certain areas and forms new neurons.
The areas are responsible for empathy and compassion. Memory function and learning capacity and improving your mood by regulating your emotions.
Helping you to declutter your thoughts and reduces the stress throughout your body, so you are in a much calmer, happier and in a balanced state of mind and body. Let’s face it, who doesn’t want to feel happier and healthier without spending loads of time and effort?
Try just 5 minutes, or more if you can, every day.
Discover my “Five quick and easy ways to calm the mind and relax at home”
Create a list of healthy and nutritious foods and drinks that you enjoy and what to avoid. Get creative for family meals! And why not get the whole family in on meal planning, it will be fun and take the stress off of you planning it alone!
Pick a few simple exercises that make you happy and that you can easily do.
Start small and increase as you progress. The benefits of starting small means that you are setting yourself up for success rather than frazzling yourself out with too much too soon! Even starting off with some full body stretches for 10 minutes, increasing and leading it up to more that feels good.
Reflecting on your progress will help you to build your confidence and encourage you to keep moving forward, creating healthy and lasting habits that are great for both your mind and body.
For some, journaling can be one of those things that can seem overwhelming, worrying about to write, but believe me, when you sit down with your journal and put pen to paper, the thoughts will flow.
Simply write down everything that comes up. Try this in the morning and evening for just a few minutes.
Getting these thoughts out of your mind and onto paper will help you to de-clutter your thoughts so you can feel calmer and less stressed.
A great way to prevent overwhelm and make space for new neurological pathways to form so you can replace the stress with positive thoughts.
Some people even use this when making big decisions in life. It helps to guide them and clear the fog.
Create a plan for some you time. Just a few minutes a day will really help.
Having a routine like this is a really good way to instil positive habits resulting in improved health and wellbeing.
This could just be anything from reading a book to a face mask. A walk in the park, calling a friend or even just buying some extra vitamins and supplements.
Predictability also combats stress. Win!
Sleep is so important for your psychological, physical and mental health, not only for you, but for your whole family. It can also improve your productivity and function; everyone benefits when mummy is in a great sleep pattern!
My top tips....
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Is this my new normality? Will it be like this forever? Will I ever get back to that place I once called home?
Being a mum is incredibly hard work. Fact.
No one really talks about how insanely difficult motherhood can be, or how demanding or transformative. We aren’t born knowing all the answers, we have to learn hard and fast. I’m still catching up!
I wasn’t taught about how to deal with the expectations of being a mum, or how to manage my emotions so that I didn’t crumble into a million pieces. No one warned or prepared me for the monumental rollercoaster I would face.
No one said you’ll transform into a new superhuman capable of multitasking beyond comprehensible measures, and that you’ll love so hard yet be intoxicated with anxieties you didn’t even know existed!
Months and months of exhaustion, sleep deprivation and crappy food habits left me feeling misplaced and confounded. And very grumpy! I didn’t feel like me, I didn’t know who I was anymore.
Motherhood was definitely not the ‘Disneyland experience’ I thought it would be.
The first year was spent in what I can only describe as mental torture. Sadly, it was a rocky start. A whirlwind of emotions.
o I was riddled with grief for my old life,
o I felt a loss of identity.
o Disconnected with who I was, with barely a moment for ‘me time’.
o Exhausted beyond belief and no plan of how to move forward.
Don’t get me wrong. I did have some very precious times, I did laugh, and I did love. But sadly, yet not uncommonly, these experiences were, for a long time, overshadowed by the darkness. I found this time incredibly difficult and distressing.
One year in and I was ready for a challenge – a change – to become creative again, get back into some sort of work. I craved the space and time to have my own thoughts. And partake in something adulty. I wanted to go back to work.
But I knew at this point that I didn’t want to go back into the 9-5 working week again. The regimented structure has never really suited me.
I wanted to be creative, be practical, to be helping others. With a Degree in Occupational Therapy and mountain of experience I found myself caught in a whirlwind of ideas battling it out.
I wanted to use my brain again and was so desperate to regain some level of sanity!
Feeling frustrated and confused, I just couldn’t make any decisions any more. So, I decided to throw the gauntlet down and let the universe tell me what to do….
I put my big girl pants on, and I did five things that changed my life forever:
1) I surrendered to the universe. (Sitting crossed legged, eyes closed, palms facing up I took a big deep breath and said “I surrender to your guidance. I trust in the path you will show me. I am ready, show me what to do, where to start.”)
2) I allowed myself to create some ‘me time’, with space to think and plan. (This involved grandparents taking my boy to playgroups/park/shopping/anywhere so I could grab an hour to myself)
3) I started to make positive change happen. (I grabbed opportunities when I saw them)
4) YOGA (weekly, regular yoga sessions)
5) I made an appointment with a Nutritional Therapist (This transformed my entire system: mood, weight, and lifted my fog)
I had no idea that a brand-new world was about to explode right in front of me!
After a whole year of self-learning, self-discovery, acceptance and self-love my next chapter began.
I found myself immersed in reading books and watching YouTube videos on starting up home businesses, female entrepreneurship, manifestations and visualisation work. I’ve always used visualisation and manifestation techniques to guide a lot of my decision making and trust in my intuition. So, for me this was familiar ground, it felt safe and welcoming, but also highly enticing…
Like a lightbulb moment! I knew that I could use my professional expertise as an Occupational Therapist, a Holistic Life Coach, and my own experiences as a mum, to create Occupational Wellness programs for other mums!
The more I immersed myself in this vision of my future, the more I started to feel myself being guided towards setting up a business which could help hundreds, if not thousands of other mums.
As the realisation that this is what I should be doing grew, I found myself waking up with butterflies in my stomach. I had just been through a huge transformation myself. And if I found a way to become unstuck, to find my calling. Then maybe I could help other mums, just like me, to find their passions again, regain their identity, their motivation toward creating the life they want.
Spread the word, support, empower and inspire…Yes!
New ideas were exploding in my head. It was like a massive ‘bomb of clarity’ had just been dropped. This was how I could incorporate all my passions and achieve fulfilment. It was so exhilarating!
I felt I was being guided from a place of darkness and confusion into a new enriched and gratifying world. I had taken a twisted path to get here, but I now realised that I had the ability and the skills and the desire to help other women who were feeling isolated, disconnected and stuck. Help them to regain their confidence, to trust in themselves, discover their own passions and reinstate balance.
I wanted to call out to other mums, to say it’s OK not to feel OK, its normal to be bewildered and exhausted by the trials of motherhood.
To give hope, inspiration to others, to follow their instincts and discover their passions. To provide a place of belonging and togetherness, a platform to voice our emotions and normalise the craziness of motherhood which so often we don’t feel we can vocalise.
It’s not been an easy ride, far from it. I continue to come up against challenges. But, through months of hard work, perseverance and dedication I have developed a new way to work through them.
Surrendering to the universe and throwing blind faith at my intuition was THE BEST decision I ever made.
I am now loving my journey into motherhood and being a mum. I finally have clarity in my life and the bond with my child is so strong and I feel connected with who I am. I’m happy, and I’m busy creating a life I love.
I am inspired every single day to reach out to others. My life is better than it has ever been, and I am the very best version of myself.
And for that I owe everything to my son. My baby. My life changer. My world.
Without him exploding into my life I wouldn’t be here today. Motivated to create change, to be part of a movement in time.
To empower and inspire women all over the globe to be open, to share their story, to feel understood and have the confidence to make their voice heard.
Come join ‘The Connected Mother Collective’ we are waiting for you.